Video Overview:

It is important that we understand the relationship between our core belief that produces our painful emotion and the solution belief that supports the solution behavior. Solution behavior is our vain attempt to “solve” the problems that our core belief causes.

 

Back in the earlier years of TPM, we offered a seminar entitled “Dealing with Difficult Cases.” The focus of the seminar was to help ministry facilitators deal with what was deemed as “difficult issues” that were sometimes encountered in ministry sessions. A sample of areas discussed included; eating disorders, multiple personality disorder (Dissociative Identity Disorder), panic disorders, major phobias, Satanic ritual abuse, just to name a few. This training was presented over the course of several long and grueling days. Training attendees would go home fatigued and overwhelmed.  Some people even decided not to pursue further training in TPM due to the complexity of this seminar.

Today, we no longer offer this training. After a great deal of time and practice, we concluded that each of these issues were more descriptive of symptoms of a deeper issue and were not, in fact, to be the focus of TPM. TPM does not focus on behavior or symptoms, but rather with lie-based core belief. We believe that there is a direct correlation between what a person believes and his behavior. We have observed that when people find freedom from the lies they believe, the symptoms caused by their lie-based thinking simply goes away.

We also concluded that sessions which appeared to be “difficult” seemed to share the same basic elements. Based upon this conclusion, and years of trial and error, we came up with three questions to identify these three elements. Once the three elements are rightly identified we found that people are usually able to move past all “difficult” issues. We are now able to effectively seek-out the source of the problem and resolve what motivates the behavior without attempting to change the behavior itself. Therefore, there is no more need for the “Dealing with Difficult Cases” training. The entire “Difficult Cases” training was replaced with three questions that we now call the De-Solution Tool.

The three elements found in the aforementioned “difficult cases” included a perceived problem, a solution, and a belief. When a ministry session stalls out, shuts down, and ceases to move forward, it is because of these three things. First, the person has a problem with moving forward. Problems need solutions. Therefore, the person employs a self-erected solution to the problem. And this solution is supported by a belief.

The most difficult part of this process for the facilitator is in being able to identify when a solution has been implemented by the person. If the facilitator does not recognize that a solution is in play, then the session will likely stall out, shut down, or start going in circles. The good news is, the facilitator can learn how to do this and grow in efficacy, as well as train the recipient to do the same.

The SOLUTION Box — Step by Step
We will first look at the middle element; solution. The reason that we start with the solution is because this is what the facilitator will likely take notice of first. The solution is the behavior that is observable. Therefore, the solution is what the ministry facilitator will continually be watching for at all times. The BELIEF and PROBLEM are initially hidden. Think of it like an iceberg. The part that you see is the solution (observable behavior). However, just beneath the surface are the problem and belief.

Solution Defined
A solution is any behavior that a person employs in response to the problems caused by his or her lie-based experiential belief. However, this “solution” often hinders him from moving forward in a ministry session; giving the appearance that the person is “stuck.”  Some examples of solutions include; emotion going away, no memory coming to mind, anger, dissociation, alter presentation (DID), becoming sleepy, confusion, not knowing what to do or where to go, random memories coming to mind, opening eyes, excessive discussion about their present situation, staying in adult memories, logical thinking, “spiritualizing” everything and giving pat Bible answers, blaming others, becoming “invisible,” being “frozen,” demonic manifestation, etc. The possibilities are seemingly limitless.

The Big Three
The “big three,” or most common solutions that you will encounter in a ministry session, are: emotions going away, no memory coming to mind, and anger showing-up. There are many more, but these are some of the most common. For the sake of discussion, we will use suppressed emotion and no memory to explain this area of concern and to illustrate how to apply the questions in the SOLUTION Box. We will save anger for a later discussion where we will deal with it in detail.

To answer this question we need to understand the perceived problem that the person is trying to solve. If a person’s behavior (solution) is that his or her feelings go away, you should be thinking “SOLUTION.” For some, at that point, unknown reason the person has made the decision to send his or her emotions away. When you first observe the behavior (the suppression of emotion) you will not know the specific problem that the person is trying to solve. The three questions in the SOLUTION Box will help you with that. But for the sake of explanation, let’s just say that the person’s problem is something like, “If I let myself feel what I feel, bad things will happen.” or, “If I allow myself to feel what I felt, I will be overwhelmed.” Therefore, the solution to these problems is easy; suppress emotion and don’t feel. So here we see two of the elements at play; PROBLEM and SOLUTION. What is resting at the bottom of the “iceberg” is the BELIEF.

So, if the problem is that “My emotions will overwhelm me” and the solution is “Stop feeling”, the belief might be something like, “Suppressing my feelings protects me from becoming overwhelmed by them” or, “Blocking out what I feel keeps me safe.” If the problem is, “If I remember what happened to me then it will be true”, and the solution is “Don’t remember,” then the belief might be “Not remembering what happened keeps me from knowing what I don’t want to know.” It is the belief that serves as the reason for the selected “solution” and is what needs to be offered up to the Lord for His truth. When the person receives the Lord’s perspective about this belief, the person will no longer be prone to use the solution. When the person knows the truth and lets go of his solution, his emotions will return and he will remember.